We often label ourselves or others as “shy,” “outgoing,” “sensitive,” or “resilient,” believing these traits define who we are at our core. But what if these so-called personality traits are actually responses to our past experiences, especially trauma? Understanding this can open the door to profound healing and self-acceptance. The Myth of a Fixed Personality […]
When people start therapy, they’re often looking for relief—relief from anxiety, relationship stress, past trauma, or just feeling stuck. But real, lasting change doesn’t just come from the right techniques or the latest therapy model. The biggest factor in healing is the therapeutic relationship—the connection between you and your therapist. Why Trust Matters More Than […]
In the journey of emotional healing and self-discovery, understanding the intricate web of our past experiences and their impact on our present behaviors is crucial. One of the most profound connections that emerge in this exploration is between childhood trauma and the development of people-pleasing behaviors in adulthood. This relationship, often overlooked, holds the key […]
Do you ever find yourself setting boundaries with the best intentions, only to see them crumble at the first sign of resistance? If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone. Many of us struggle with maintaining boundaries, and often, the root cause is intertwined with our sense of self-esteem. Understanding the relationship between self-esteem and boundaries […]
If you’re searching for EMDR therapy, you’ve likely heard that it’s a powerful method for processing trauma. But did you know there’s an alternative that may work even faster? Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART) is a cutting-edge approach that helps people resolve trauma in fewer sessions than traditional EMDR. In this guide, we’ll compare ART and EMDR to help you determine […]
Have you ever wondered why certain situations seem to trigger you more than others? Why you might feel unworthy despite your accomplishments, struggle to trust even the closest people in your life, or feel invisible in your relationships? These patterns often stem from what we call core wounds — deeply ingrained emotional injuries from our […]
When I first trained with Pia Mellody in Post Induction Therapy, I knew I was learning something special. I had already spent years helping people overcome some of life’s deepest concerns, but this was different. It wasn’t just about managing problems and stress—it was about getting to the root of the pain that shapes how we see ourselves, […]
In the course of my work as a trauma therapist specializing in Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID), I have recently encountered a striking and recurring phenomenon among several of my clients—something I am calling the “Twins Effect.” This internal dynamic, observed in individuals well into their therapeutic journeys, highlights a dichotomy within their self-states, resulting in […]
Imagine being able to tell your brain that the traumatic event that haunts you never actually occurred. For many suffering from PTSD, this might sound like an impossible dream. Trauma triggers our Fight, Flight, or Freeze response system automatically. Whether you fought, fled, or froze, you survived the event, but your brain remembers it. This […]
It’s Valentines Day and many people are thinking about their relationships. We often think about adults when we think about relationships. We especially think about adults when we think or hear about domestic violence. However, physically, emotionally and verbally abusive relationships occur in teenage relationships too. While reviewing this subject I came upon a video […]
