The teen years are an important developmental time. Important things that happen during this time include: 1. Forming important relationships Teens spend more and more time with peers. Peers influence the formation of their identity and allow to them to try out different groups to see where they fit in. Teens may face stress in […]
One of the primary difficulties that creates social anxiety in new situations or interpersonal scenarios in everyday life is the overlooking of simple human positive tendencies to engage. Have you ever been in a new social environment? Have you ever felt that you wished the world would swallow you up when the conversation goes […]
Never Stop Touching Words of Kindness. Never stop kissing a good morning kiss, holding hands, a good night kiss. Always mean what you say and say what you mean; kindly. Always maintain eye-to-eye contact. Read the soul. In your discussions avoid using the words, “Always and Never.” Unless, it is, Never stop kissing, Always be […]
Psychotherapy is a tool for branching out to new understandings and clarity of self and one’s surroundings. Psychology is a healing art-form, a tool for self-exploration. It is a guide to emotional healing and processing to the comforts of external and internal emotional freedom. I will direct you with the skills to regulate your unattended […]
Chuck Lorre produced a TV show called Dharma and Greg. I video taped (remember VCR’s?) the first episode. At the end of the show, I saw a blip on the screen and wondered what kind of subliminal message was just zapped into my brain. Freeze framing the blip, I saw Chuck’s first “Vanity Card.” The […]
What we’re really asking each other for, and what we should seek instead. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if we were loved and accepted exactly as we are? Many times during psychotherapy sessions, my clients have uttered some version of, “I just want to be unconditionally loved! I want someone who can accept me with my flaws and […]
I statements; statements that begin with the word I This is a common skill used in treatment of those seeking couples therapy, but why is it so important and how does it work? Using I statements helps you take responsibility for your own feelings and improves communication so your partner doesn’t need to guess how […]
Be Curious. Get to know your friend, it takes time to learn about another person. Don’t be so quick to assume or jump to conclusions. Avoid Attacking or Judging others. Listen and Validate. Friends want to be heard and understood by you. Listen to what the other person is saying. Use those empathy skills to […]
Engulfed by a Storm Those who have never been in a domestic violence situation are often perplexed as to how intelligent people become trapped and why they remain with someone who is abusive. In an effort to help provide clarity let us consider the dynamics of the following story: Imagine as if you are […]
PARENTING ADULT-LIKE CHILDREN An article to share: With some of my own insights. Parents are often overwhelmed as their children become adults in chronological age yet still have the maturity and judgment of a 15 year old – less. Adult children should be equipped with life skills and motivated to take on adult responsibilities like […]
