At some point, the high performer’s internal monologue starts to sound like this: I just need to push through. Everyone else is handling it. I’ll rest when this project is done. I don’t have time to fall apart right now. And then, eventually, the body makes the decision that the mind refused to make. Burnout […]
When we experience something overwhelming, our nervous system responds to protect us, through fight, flight, freeze or fawn. This is a completely natural survival response. The difficulty is that long after the event has passed, the nervous system can remain stuck in that protective state. Your body is still responding as though the threat […]
When your partner says that thing in that tone—and you feel the urge to shut down, snap, or launch a well-rehearsed monologue—there’s one move that can change everything: curiosity. Curiosity in conflict is a game changer. It slows down reactivity. It invites understanding. And it builds connection right where disconnection usually takes root. Asking yourself questions like “What […]
What Is Trauma and How Does It Affect You? Trauma isn’t just about what happened. It’s about what happens inside you as a result. Many people who come to therapy don’t initially identify as having experienced trauma. They know something difficult happened, but they’re not sure if it “counts.” They just know that something feels […]
Anxiety can make even ordinary days feel overwhelming. You might find yourself overthinking, expecting the worst, struggling to sleep, feeling constantly on edge, or carrying a tension that never seems to leave your body. It can be exhausting. If this feels familiar, you’re not alone. Anxiety isn’t a sign that you’re weak or “too sensitive.” […]
Choosing a Particular Trauma Relief Therapy If your life was disrupted by an unexpected experience and you cannot stop the cycles of self-doubt, sorrow or frustration, help is available in many forms. Anxiety, trauma, PTSD and complex trauma can be cured. Receiving compassionate and effective help after a life shock is very important. However, Choosing […]
Most Marriages After 40 Don’t End Because Love Disappeared—They End Because Respect Slowly Faded Respect —not love— is often the first thing to disappear in struggling marriages. Many people assume marriages end because couples simply “fall out of love.” But after more than 20 years of working with couples and over 30 years of marriage […]
Hay personas que saben perfectamente lo que necesitan decir. Saben que deberían responder “no”. Saben que esa petición las sobrepasa. Saben que están agotadas. Y, aun así, terminan diciendo “sí”. No porque no conozcan la importancia de los límites. Sino porque anticipan algo que les resulta todavía más difícil: la culpa. El verdadero problema no […]
Tal vez ya has tomado la decisión muchas veces. Has pensado que esta vez será la última discusión. Que dejarás de justificar comportamientos que te hacen sufrir. Que recuperarás la tranquilidad que hace tiempo perdiste. Y, sin embargo, cuando llega el momento de dar el paso, algo cambia. Aparecen las dudas. La culpa. El miedo. […]
I wish I knew about the 7 types of rest when I started my career. When I experienced burnout as a case manager and child and youth worker, I kept coming home and zoning out on the couch, too depleted to do anything else. Even after a full night’s sleep, I still felt exhausted. My […]
