When Marriage Ends: How to Begin Healing After Divorce Divorce can feel like watching your world crack open. One day you’re part of a story you thought would last forever—and the next, you’re staring at blank pages. But endings can also be beginnings. This isn’t about fixing what broke—it’s about finding who you are now. […]
Halloween is coming up quickly and many children are anxiously counting the hours until Halloween. For children this is a great holiday. They get to wear a costume they like and they get free candy. What more could a child ask for? Many children plan all year about the costume they are going to […]
I know that reaching out for therapy can take courage. If you’re reading this, chances are you’ve been carrying a lot — trying to hold it together, showing up for others, while wondering when it might be your turn to feel supported. You don’t have to do it alone. I work with adults and young […]
Lately I have been anxious. Not my usual low hum of worry, of thinking every detail through, but the “out-of-the-normal” anxiety. Waves of panic descend over me, crash on me out of nowhere. I will be sitting on the couch, and suddenly I am anxious, panicked. Worrisome thoughts intrude on my brain. “Will I have […]
As a Licensed Professional Counselor, I fully support the American Counseling Association’s reaffirmed stance against conversion therapy. The ACA’s recent statement, issued alongside its participation in Chiles v. Salazar before the U.S. Supreme Court, makes something very clear: efforts to change a person’s sexual orientation or gender identity are not therapy. They are harm disguised as help. […]
A few years ago, I was talking with a friend, discussing a book that we had both read. Our conversation took place in 2020, during the lockdown. It was a time when I was questioning my life, how I was living my days. In the book, an African proverb was quoted. “‘When death finds you, […]
What if I told you that self-care is a myth? That the way we think about it is all wrong. What if I told you that you do not need more self-care in your life? That the problem is deeper than that. That self-care is being used as a scapegoat. What if I told you […]
You spend hours replaying conversations in your head. You can’t stop worrying. You avoid decisions because you’re afraid of what someone might think or say. You hold back, shrink, or second-guess yourself — just in case you upset someone. It’s exhausting. And it keeps you stuck. There’s a mental shift that can set you free. […]
You’ve read the articles. You’ve watched the reels. “Just say no.” “Use I-statements.” “Visualize your boundary.” It’s tempting to believe there’s a single trick that will make healthy boundaries easy. But if you’ve ever tried to hold a boundary with someone who’s hurt when you don’t give, who guilt-trips, or who simply steamrolls, you know […]
When you’ve been carrying pain for years — or struggling in a relationship that feels stuck — weekly therapy can feel too slow. You show up for 50 minutes, start to open up, then the clock runs out. The next week, you have to pick up where you left off. Real change can happen this […]
