Historically, marriages were based on economic factors and roles were assigned to individuals within that institution. Roles gave men and women clear guidelines for interacting and thus clear expectations of each other. When romanticism developed, the beloved served the function of a creative muse. He or she was never expected to be part of a […]
Our primary job as parents is to teach our children healthy habits of self-discipline and self-regulation. I wholeheartedly believe the most successful way to do this is by connecting to our children in a calm, safe, attuned, and curious manner. When children feel safe, they have the freedom to explore, take risks and develop in […]
I start almost every parenting blog with the statement “parenting is hard; really really hard”, and that’s because every time I sit down to reflect on parenting issues, that is the first thought that pops into my mind. I am a professional licensed counselor, and I too mess this parenting thing up… often…. maybe almost […]
Many spiritual tradition caution against judgement. It is certainly not consistent with being loving, much less unconditionally loving. In a way it suggests that we know what something or someone should be or do—and we never have the whole context of what God’s plan is or what anyone else’s process and evolution is. Judgement goes beyond evaluation in […]
Learning that your partner has cheated on you can bring out your deepest pain. It hits in waves of emotions – anger, betrayal, confusion, shame, and sadness. Just as in any difficult situation, you will process your feelings. The healing process gets confusing as your emotions bounce around, trying to find peace and clarity. As […]
I’m getting a better, clearer picture of what the mind looks like. There are facets to the mind, the facets are described as developmental phases of awareness. Each phase builds upon the next both including and expanding upon the previous facet. There is a process of growth at each facet, best described by Ken Wilber […]
Reducing your Stress Break tasks down – This is one of my favourites. The premise is that even if you do just 1 thing a day, this can help reduce feelings of overwhelm and make things more manageable. That one thing could be work-related or may be something in your personal life, such as doing one […]
Often, we find ourselves trying to live up to impossible standards. Sometimes, these are standards we place upon ourselves or others place upon us. Either way, the pressure to reach impossible standards leaving us feeling inadequate and never enough. It is common for people to spend too much time working on things, whether it is […]
Life and Truth Lessons with SAGENEL © The Birthday Edition. 1) Respect is not Age Bound, It’s Human Bound. 2) If foolishness abides in a place, it’s probably because there is an Opportunity for God’s Wisdom to be shown through you. Don’t lose that Opportunity. 3) Many Christians still miss the point of what Jesus […]
One thing that always strikes me when I experience or listen to people attempting to make joint decisions is that each person’s perspective and choice is often presented as an either/or alternative. Everyone then proceeds to make a case for whatever it is that they are advocating, hoping to convince the other person(s) of the […]
