Practice observing your thoughts, rather than reacting automatically to them. Think of your thoughts as clouds floating by. Look at which draw you in and which make you want to run away. Is there a way you can untangle yourself and just observe your thoughts, rather than reacting?
I love quotes. I hope I’ll be remembered for one of the following. (as best as I can tell, I made these up) Nothing is more profound than realizing the obvious. The better you get, the harder it is to get better. Fate is simply seizing an opportunity. Wisdom is knowing which opportunity to seize. […]
Chuck Lorre produced a TV show called Dharma and Greg. I video taped (remember VCR’s?) the first episode. At the end of the show, I saw a blip on the screen and wondered what kind of subliminal message was just zapped into my brain. Freeze framing the blip, I saw Chuck’s first “Vanity Card.” The […]
What we’re really asking each other for, and what we should seek instead. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if we were loved and accepted exactly as we are? Many times during psychotherapy sessions, my clients have uttered some version of, “I just want to be unconditionally loved! I want someone who can accept me with my flaws and […]
By Glyndora Condon MS MFT LPC Meaning in life seems to provide nurturing according to studies that measured health and life behaviors (Health Psychology Review, Vol. 11, Nov. 4, 2017), and over 90 percent of Americans appear to believe that their lives are meaningful according to several reviews provided by the University of Virginia, […]
I statements; statements that begin with the word I This is a common skill used in treatment of those seeking couples therapy, but why is it so important and how does it work? Using I statements helps you take responsibility for your own feelings and improves communication so your partner doesn’t need to guess how […]
What about Boundaries? This is a common issue that comes up in couples and family work and I just wanted to take a minute to talk about the different kind of boundaries. Physical Boundaries: This includes your personal space such as a hand shake, hugging or even kissing. This is calculated on the setting. Physical […]
We hear all the time about the importance of having good physical health but what about having good mental health. It is important to have the skills to help you feel calm and to be at peace. These skills are different for everyone it is up to you to find what works best for you […]
Be Curious. Get to know your friend, it takes time to learn about another person. Don’t be so quick to assume or jump to conclusions. Avoid Attacking or Judging others. Listen and Validate. Friends want to be heard and understood by you. Listen to what the other person is saying. Use those empathy skills to […]
MANAGING TIME-A LIFE SKILL WORTH LEARNING As parents prepare their youth for adulthood they focus on over 25 life skills that their child needs to learn and practice at a mastery level prior to entering into their adult years. Why a mastery level? Because if we allow mediocre work at home and in school and […]
