As a psychotherapist specializing in group therapy, I often hear the following comments and questions from clients in my practice: “Group? Why Group?!” I like talking to you privatelyWhy should I share my deepest darkest struggles with a bunch of strangersI already take care of others and not myself, won’t group be the same?That’s too…
( The following is a reprint of an article I wrote a couple of years ago. It is still accurate) It is a New Year and you are thinking it is high time I received a better salary. Would it surprise you that the number one reason why women do not get paid as much…
I wrote the folowing article for the National Psychologist, In my 27 years of practice as a clinical psychologist, I have been guided by a continuous curiosity to study and implement the most effective tools for helping my clients experience relief and healing. Whether the techniques are firmly rooted in the psychotherapeutic establishment or newly…
Understanding Secure and Insecure Attachment John Gerson, Ph.D. It should be our goal as parents to raise our children to be secure people. Fortunately, most of us have implicit knowledge of the behavioral ingredients that combine to promote security. That implicit knowledge most likely comes from the lucky experience of having been parented by parents…
What to do if your spouse won’t go to counseling John Gerson, Ph.D. The scenario of one spouse recognizing that therapy might be useful to look at a troubled relationship while the other is resistant has several possible explanations. It may be that your partner has become too anxious as a product of interpreting your…
I was recently interviewed by a psychotherapist/author writing a piece on the initial contact made by potential clients looking for professional help. It was astonishing, as well as humbling, to be brought back to “the basics”, that initial call, and just what that must feel like to the person putting through that call or email.…
One of the most confusing concepts about limits and boundaries is understanding that there is a difference between these two terms. Yet both are equally important in a healthy relationship. A Boundary is a theoretical line that we define for others. Like a boundary on a map, in truth there is no line in stone…
Web MD had a wonderful article posted online about 20 things you can learn from your pet. All of them were good suggestions, but some spoke to me more than others. For instance, “live in the moment” and “forget multitasking;” although these were two separate recommendations, they seem related. Oftentimes, especially in this age of…
Sowing into the noble cause of fostering healthy and strong relationships does empower the people involved with this challenging task. A real sense of zeal and well being can come from connecting with another person; There is an ability and motivation to take action in the relationship as well as in other situations; There is an on going sense of growth and knowledge…