In today’s fast-paced world, maintaining a positive mindset can often feel like an uphill battle. However, with the right tools and techniques, it is possible to overcome negativity and embrace a more optimistic outlook on life. As a therapist practicing in-person and online in Victoria, BC, I have had the privilege of assisting countless individuals…
“I’ll see your passive-aggressiveness and raise you a sweet-genuine”. ~ Unknown To talk about Passive-Aggressiveness we need to start with a simple definition of the 3 primary ways people behave and/or communicate. I’ve always thought of these as a clock (I hope this metaphor makes sense to you): • Passive behavior/communication (which shares many similarities…
The term neuroticism dates to the ancient Greeks who believed people were made up of four basic temperaments: choleric (anger/leaders), sanguine (happy/sociable), phlegmatic (calm/deep thinkers) and melancholic (neurotic/artists). Then came Freud (late 1800’s), who had many thoughts about neuroses (some better than others)! Simply summarized, he thought neuroses came from not facing, and thereby repressing,…
“Diligence is the mother of good luck”. (Proverb) When something happens to you, how much control do you feel you had over it? Your answer to this question is shaped by many factors (childhood experiences, parenting styles, abilities, trauma etc.) and causes you to fall somewhere on the spectrum of high internal to high external…
Are you tired of feeling held back by self-doubt and insecurity? Do you find yourself stuck in a cycle of self-sabotage, unable to break free and reach your full potential? If so, you’re not alone. Many individuals struggle with confidence issues that impact every aspect of their lives, from personal relationships to professional success. Fortunately,…
What does it mean to be “Co-dependant”? “Codependency is a circular relationship in which one person needs the other person, who in turn, needs to be needed. The codependent person, known as ‘the giver,’ feels worthless unless they are needed by — and making sacrifices for — the enabler, otherwise known as ‘the taker.” In sociology,…
The culture of silence, a rooted cultural norm in South Asian, European, Middle Eastern, Asian and Black families, restrains attempts of physical and sexual abuse survivors from getting the help they need. The fear of revenge and being disowned is prominent in home of these families where kids are being abused. Family shame, honor, and…
In my practice, both online and in Victoria, I’ve guided numerous individuals through the maze of anxiety. Drawing from personal experience and professional insights, I’ve unraveled anxiety as a manifestation of fear deeply rooted in our subconscious. Often stemming from unresolved past events or emotional encounters, it breeds beliefs of inadequacy or unworthiness, hindering our…
It’s a struggle that so many of us can relate to – trying to push away those pesky, unwelcome thoughts that seem to pop into our heads out of the blue. From the moment an unwanted thought first crossed your mind, you’ve likely poured a ton of energy into attempting to ignore it, shove it…
Faith, hope and love; the greatest of these is love (I Corinthians 13:13). What settles people in from existing storms is the ability to present one another with the probability of hope. Living is not enough; one must indeed know how to live. How? Understanding the how fragile one’s existence actually is. Taking stock in…