One of the many things untreated trauma impacts is your ability to tolerate making mistakes. This reaction happens because past trauma can cloud you. So mistakes & failures FEEL scary, unsafe, & catastrophic (even when they FACTUALLY aren’t). Check out this week’s blog to learn more about how to tap into the wisdom of making…
Many clients come to me searching for help dealing with post-traumatic stress disorder. Some realize they are suffering with it, while others may not be aware of the severity of it. PTSD occurs when someone has been the victim of or has witnessed a terrifying event where there was a threat of death, serious injury,…
The holidays are an excellent time to bond and strengthen family relationships, however they can also be stressful particularly when dealing with family conflict and differing personalities. Some conflict can arise spontaneously, while other times there may be hurt feelings from the past that present themselves again when you reunite. Today I want to focus…
Sometimes, no matter how hard you try, you can have trouble getting yourself to turn your mind, and to be open. You want to do it, but your mind is stuck. It’s not turning. Or you want to do it, but you find yourself feeling willful. Willfullness is when we dig our heels in or…
Take care of your appearance. Smile and look people in the eye. Give genuine compliments to others. Know your strengths. Accept your imperfections.
Our primary job as parents is to teach our children healthy habits of self-discipline and self-regulation. I wholeheartedly believe the most successful way to do this is by connecting to our children in a calm, safe, attuned, and curious manner. When children feel safe, they have the freedom to explore, take risks and develop in…
I start almost every parenting blog with the statement “parenting is hard; really really hard”, and that’s because every time I sit down to reflect on parenting issues, that is the first thought that pops into my mind. I am a professional licensed counselor, and I too mess this parenting thing up… often…. maybe almost…
Let’s get one thing clear: Parenting is hard. Parenting is really, really hard! I am a parent of two wonderful, energetic, curious, and sometimes mischievous kids. My little ones are five and eight years old and watching them grow and develop is a true joy. Even therapists’ children have meltdowns, blows ups, power struggles, and…
I attended a book talk by James Clear on his book ‘Atomic Habits’ at the Rotman School here in Toronto in December 2019. The following post is my highlight notes of the event. ”Every action you take is a vote for the type of person you wish to become.” – James Clear A New Take…
It has been almost a year since the world changed with the Covid-19 virus. After months and months of being locked down, many families are experiencing burnout from being forced to be home together so much. Family therapy during covid may be the answer. While the vaccines are being rolled out, we are still getting…