I often hear parents tell me their kids are doing fine with their divorce. However, when I ask the child how they are doing, they often say they are stuck in the middle of war. I also have many parents who are thinking about divorce ask me, “how will this affect my child?” This is […]
As a man, does asking for help feel foreign or ‘wrong’ somehow? It may be that many traditionally male tenets may be useful or adaptative in certain environments. However, at least some of them might come at a significant cost in other areas. A relatively recent study shows that at least for some men, believing […]
Preteens today are navigating increasingly complex emotional landscapes. Anxiety, overwhelm, sensitivity, and self-doubt often begin to emerge during these years, sometimes without the language or tools needed to make sense of what they’re experiencing. For many children, emotions can feel sudden, intense, and confusing. They may not yet have the ability to clearly express what’s […]
What Do Couples Argue About? www.bastiontherapy.com You may have wondered what other couples argue about. And if you reflect on your own arguments, you may have wondered how your arguments relate to how other couples argue and whether couples therapy might be helpful. First, let’s recognize that disagreements among couples is normal, but that conflict […]
In psychotherapy and couples therapy at Bastion Therapy, we can explore tools that can help with couples conflict and conflict in general. www.bastiontherapy.com Have you ever wondered if the way you and your partner communicate during conflict might not be ideal? One potential tool is changing your opening statement in a conflict discussion. In a […]
A lot of people come into therapy thinking something in them is wrong. It’s a place I’ve sat in myself. It’s not always spoken so directly… Often, it sounds more like: “I don’t know why I react like this.” “I understand it… but I still can’t change it.” “I don’t understand why I keep […]
Last week in my office, a husband sat across from me, clearly frustrated and agitated. His words came out fast and loud. “What can I say to get her to listen?” he asked, exasperated. But here was the problem: his wife, sitting just a few feet away, was trying to listen. In fact, she’d been […]
Borderline Personality Disorder: When Every Emotion Feels Like an Emergency: Life with BPD If you’ve ever felt like your emotions are just too loud, like your reactions come too fast and too hard and you can’t hit pause, you’re not alone. If you’ve been told you’re “Too much,” “too sensitive,” or that […]
If you’ve ever felt like your emotions run the show, or like you’re stuck in a loop of intense reactions, relationship blowups, or deep shame, you’re not alone. And you’re not beyond help. That’s where something called DBT comes in. Dialectical Behavior Therapy (don’t let the name scare you) is basically a super practical, powerful set of tools […]
No Accountability, No Consistency: The Power of Life Coaching Consistency is the bridge between intention and transformation. Most people don’t fail because they lack desire, intelligence, or even discipline—they fail because they lack accountability. Without accountability, goals drift, habits fade, and momentum stalls. The truth is simple: no accountability, no consistency. Accountability is not control; […]
