She looked at me like I’d suggested she try flapping her arms and flying home. I’d floated the idea of being a little kinder to herself — nothing dramatic — and her response was immediate. Almost allergic. “That feels fake.” Then, quieter: “I don’t think I can do that.” I’ve had this conversation more times […]
Searching for a trauma therapist is a lot to ask of someone who’s already running low. You scroll through bios that all sound the same and try to figure out who might actually be a good fit for the specific, complicated, very human things you’re carrying. One thing worth knowing first: trauma doesn’t always look […]
Setting boundaries with a family member who struggles with addiction can be frightening, stressful, and often does not end up with positive results because people set boundaries when they are upset, emotional and have “had enough”. As an Addiction Therapist who, over the past 30+ years, has worked with people affected by addiction (whether it’s […]
Many people with ADHD struggle with more than just attention or organization. They may also experience emotional overwhelm, chronic stress, or patterns that feel rooted in past experiences. This often leads to an important question:Is this ADHD, trauma, or both? The answer is often both. ADHD and trauma frequently overlap, and when they do, symptoms […]
We love the idea of newness. A fresh start. A clean slate. A sudden burst of motivation that finally makes everything in our lives line up. In faith spaces, “newness” can sound even more immediate—like once you pray the right prayer, choose the right habits, or “let it go,” you should feel different right away. […]
If you’re a woman who feels constantly overwhelmed, distracted, or “behind” – despite trying hard to stay organized – you’re not alone. Many women with ADHD go years without a diagnosis, often being misunderstood or misdiagnosed along the way. The truth is, ADHD in women can look very different than the stereotypical hyperactive presentation, and […]
Struggling to tell if it’s OCD or ADHD? Learn the key differences, overlapping symptoms, and why getting the right diagnosis matters for effective treatment. Many people struggle with racing thoughts, difficulty focusing, anxiety, or a sense of being mentally “stuck.” If that sounds familiar, you may have wondered whether you are dealing with ADHD, OCD, […]
If the idea of sitting across from a therapist in a quiet office makes you want to reschedule approximately forever, you’re not alone. For a lot of people, the traditional therapy setup creates more anxiety than it relieves. The eye contact. The tissues on the table. The sense that you’re supposed to say something profound […]
I often hear parents tell me their kids are doing fine with their divorce. However, when I ask the child how they are doing, they often say they are stuck in the middle of war. I also have many parents who are thinking about divorce ask me, “how will this affect my child?” This is […]
As a man, does asking for help feel foreign or ‘wrong’ somehow? It may be that many traditionally male tenets may be useful or adaptative in certain environments. However, at least some of them might come at a significant cost in other areas. A relatively recent study shows that at least for some men, believing […]
