Change is the only constant in life, yet it is often the thing we fear most. Whether you are moving to a new city, switching careers, finishing a degree, or navigating the end of a long-term relationship, transition periods share a common, uncomfortable thread: uncertainty. We often refer to these phases as “liminal spaces”—the threshold […]
Why Non-Sexual Intimacy Often Feels Missing in Loving Relationships Non-sexual intimacy is often the missing piece when couples say they love each other but still feel distant. Many people assume intimacy means deep conversations, emotional confessions, or long talks late into the night. When those moments are rare or feel forced, couples start to worry […]
This blog is based on a book review for class. The hope of this review is to create a resource that helps clients better understand the therapeutic process—particularly the roles of anxiety, defenses, and emotional engagement. While people come to therapy either needing change, wanting change or hearing they need to […]
A short time after my special operations experience, I was moving my young family to a new city. My wife, son, and I were in the back of a U-Haul unloading boxes into a storage unit near our new home. My wife and young son ambushed me in the back of the truck, cutting off […]
The other day, I heard about a woman in a therapist group who was struggling with loneliness as an “empty nester.” She wanted to build friendships and perhaps find a romantic partner, but despite her efforts to engage in groups and host events, she found that people didn’t seem to connect with her. She described […]
I want to share something tender and honest from my heart. Inner Child work is something I do with almost every one of my clients, because of how profoundly powerful it is. We all have an inner child, and this work isn’t simply about reconnecting with our playful, curious, or light-hearted side. The healing lies […]
In the wake of a heated argument or a season of disconnect, many couples find themselves standing in the rubble of what used to be a firm foundation. Whether the conflict was a “colorful conversation” filled with descriptive disagreements or a period of cold withdrawal, the aftermath remains the same: a fracture in trust. Rebuilding […]
Did you know that once upon a time, if a woman exhibited any emotional distress, they would remove her “hysteria” by performing a “hysterectomy”? (Hence the term we still use for this procedure of removing the reproductive organs.) But, back in the day, this was understood to be a treatment for a wild assortment of […]
The big initial disclaimer has to be that this is referring only to virtual, text style therapy. While we may see speaking CGI avatars come along in video chat in the near future … I think the in-person experience is not cost-effective to consider a robot/humanoid therapist in the room. Nor do I think anyone […]
Let’s revisit the love languages (made famous by Chapman a few years back). Y’all, the key is that you speak THEIR love language. Cross translate. Dr Alessandra talks about the “platinum rule” in relationships. The golden rule is “Do to others as you would like them to do to you.” The platinum rule is “Do […]
