(From the Downtown Therapy blog. Check it out to see more)   It’s quite possible to want to see a therapist and yet not exactly know what it is that you really want to talk about: something’s going on, but it isn’t clear enough to say it’s ______. This may feel odd, because sometimes we…

Summer evokes an image of couples driving off from the chapel, a “Just Married” sign and a couple of tin cans dangling from their getaway car. The bumps down the road lie furthest from their minds. Yet the challenges and pressures will come. What can couples do to stay on track or find a new…

There is so much talk these days in our personal and professional lives about the importance of people ‘connecting’. Business networking is about connecting, good personal relationships need connection between two people, therapists ask couples, ‘do you feel connected?’ And the current mother of all connecting species: “friending” on Facebook! So what’s all this connecting…

Throughout our lives, we develop limiting and unhelpful thoughts, beliefs, habits, and ways of “being” in the world that become stored in our unconscious minds. These negative thoughts often result in self-sabotage and an inability to achieve our goals or break destructive/unhealthy habits.   Clinical hypnotherapy serves to by-pass the conscious mind and speak directly…

Escalation is one of the five most harmful communication patterns. The others are “Invalidation,” “Negative Interpretation,” “Withdrawal/Avoidance,” and the grandmother of them all “Mindreading.” For the purposes of this blog, “Escalation” is the focal topic for today. Escalating happens inside our brains and starts with how you perceive another person’s words and actions. Perceptual filters…

Couples sometimes come to counselling hoping the other will change.  I believe within couple, partners are meant to learn how to adapt and grow.  When that is not happening, conflict or dissatisfied arises.  The work of couple counselling is about finding a balance between meeting some of your partners needs for affection, emotional support, “togetherness”…