If you’re a high achiever, you’re probably excellent at getting things done—but struggle with saying no. You take on extra projects, respond to emails at all hours, and push through exhaustion because “that’s what it takes to succeed.” But here’s the truth: working without boundaries doesn’t necessarily make you more successful. It can make you […]
Does this sound familiar? You’ve built an impressive career, checked all the “success” boxes, and from the outside, your life looks enviable. Yet privately, you’re wrestling with relentless anxiety, feeling like an imposter, and living in fear that it could all come crashing down at any moment. You’re not alone. In my years as a […]
Hello there! I’m so glad you’ve found your way to this space—a meaningful step on your journey towards healing and growth. The fact that you’re reading these words right now says you’re already on an inner journey of self-discovery. Whether you’re simply curious about how therapy might fit into your life or you’re ready to […]
When I suggest that a client may be sensitive, or even highly sensitive, they wince when their sensitivity is mentioned. As if I called them an asshole or some other unsavory name. Shame washes over them, as if I have suddenly discovered the secret they’ve been hiding from the world. When did it become taboo […]
I have talked about how I think self-care is a myth. How we have been conditioned (especially as helpers and empaths) to give all of our good away and then use self-care to fill ourselves back up. I have developed my thesis: self-care is a way of life, not the pampering activities or self-soothing techniques […]
Imagine you are you working out with a new trainer at the gym. You don’t know one another well yet, and the trainer is still trying to get to know what your body can and can’t do. She tells you to get down onto all fours for some bird dogs. Now, you know that your […]
I often hear parents tell me their kids are doing fine with their divorce. However, when I ask the child how they are doing, they often say they are stuck in the middle of war. I also have many parents who are thinking about divorce ask me, “how will this affect my child?” This is […]
It’s not easy to arrive at this statement of fact. This insight: I am neurodivergent (I am autistic). Call it what you want: a diagnosis, an adjective, a different way of thinking and being in the world, but when you finally arrive at this understanding of self—I am neurodivergent—it marks the beginning of a new […]
I often hear clients with complex trauma and borderline personality disorder (BPD) describe feeling “too much.” In therapy, we explore what this means, how they interpret it, and how their past may have shaped this perception of human distress—a struggle to regulate their inner world. Although being “too much” can be linked to invalidation, rejection, […]
There’s a unique kind of heartache that doesn’t often get named—the pain of feeling unseen in a moment that was supposed to be joyful. For many, an engagement or wedding marks not just a relationship milestone but a deeply vulnerable act of self-expression. It’s the announcement to the world: I’m loved. I choose […]
