M. Scott Peck, MD’s book titled: “The Road Less Traveled: A New Psychology of Love, Traditional Values, and Spiritual Growth(1978), is for me the mother of all self-help books. What I found so compelling about this book which I could not adequately explain earlier in my life was how it debunked illusions about life…

“A New Way of Being”ByPayam Ghassemlou MFT, Ph.D. Your mind is often busy focusing on one concern or another. Sometimes you might be dealing with remorse about the past, and other times you might be worrying about the future. In addition, you can have thoughts of regret, resentment, and feelings of insecurity which can all…

That’s a powerful thing to say right? That there are four specific things you can do in a relationship that if done enough, over time will totally kill whatever good is there. Might sound crazy, but it’s true. For those of you who read my last post, you’re already familiar with Dr. John Gottman. Gottman…

Earlier in the week, I learned a valuable lesson from someone* who’s been through some major difficulties in life, including alcoholism in the family, financial difficulties, relationship issues, and mental illness. This woman – let’s call her Shauna – has been troubled for a long time. However, she’s found an excellent coping mechanism, firmly grounded…

Link: Mindfulness and Neural Integration: Daniel Siegel, MD at TEDxStudioCityED Relationships, the mind, the brain and neural integration. Dan Siegel describes the brain in such a way that most of us can understand it and while doing so explains integration. Integration meaning the process of combining the parts of the brain to work together and…

Getting to Know You?!™ By David I. Brandt, LCSW Posted 3/29/14 “A man must eat a peck of salt with his friend, before he knows him.” Miguel De Cervantes And that is A LOT of salt! It takes time to really know if someone will become a friend or not (or a lover or not).…

Coping with depression, loneliness, and feelings of hopelessness can feel like a solitary activity. When we feel these ways, we often have the impression that we’re on our own. I recently asked my Facebook friends how they get through difficult times – an effort of mine to get more ideas as a therapist and to…

Though no one category fits all, in my psychotherapy practice I notice a strong correlation between folks with chronic anger management problems and those who exhibit self-defeating personality traits. Many of these clients seem to organize identities around a core belief that they are victims. We believe this to be true because we continue to…