I often hear clients with complex trauma and borderline personality disorder (BPD) describe feeling “too much.” In therapy, we explore what this means, how they interpret it, and how their past may have shaped this perception of human distress—a struggle to regulate their inner world. Although being “too much” can be linked to invalidation, rejection, […]
There’s a unique kind of heartache that doesn’t often get named—the pain of feeling unseen in a moment that was supposed to be joyful. For many, an engagement or wedding marks not just a relationship milestone but a deeply vulnerable act of self-expression. It’s the announcement to the world: I’m loved. I choose […]
In recent times, the concept of attending to one’s inner child to heal oneself has been gaining popularity in psychotherapy. Therapeutic approaches such as the Internal Family System (IFS) and Parts Work, as well as various books and worksheets, have emphasized the importance of understanding one’s fragmented self and piecing it together like […]
We Are Built to Connect What if healing didn’t begin in isolation—but in relationship? Interpersonal Neurobiology (IPNB), a multidisciplinary framework developed by Dr. Daniel Siegel, reveals that healing is not just a solo journey. It’s a relational process, deeply rooted in the very architecture of the brain. Neuroscientist Louis Cozolino describes the brain […]
Do you ever find yourself caught in a whirlwind of “what if” thoughts? You know, those anxious phrases playing on repeat in your mind: “What if something terrible happens?” or “What if I can’t handle it?” This pattern of worst-case-scenario thinking, often called catastrophizing, can weigh heavily on your mental health and rob you […]
Being Nice Psychological Underpinnings: External Motivation: Being “nice” is often driven by the desire for social approval, acceptance, or avoidance of conflict. It may stem from a need to be liked or to avoid rejection or disapproval. Niceness can be an outward behavior aimed at managing others’ perceptions of oneself. People-Pleasing: “Niceness” is often linked […]
Preparing for Couples Therapy: A Guide for Success Couples therapy can be a powerful tool for strengthening your relationship, resolving conflicts, and deepening emotional connection. To make the most of the process, preparation and intentionality are key. Below is a summary to help couples get started and maximize their therapy experience. Understand the Purpose of […]
The Recovery Tripod A Framework for Couples Think of this framework like a tripod holding up a camera. Each leg represents one of the three healing pillars. If one leg is weak or missing, the whole structure tips over — the image (a restored life and relationship) cannot be held steady. The Betrayal Trauma Leg provides grounding and […]
The Myth of the Midlife Crisis We’ve all heard the clichés: the sports car, the sudden career pivot, the restless search for meaning. But behind those images lies something much more human. A midlife crisis isn’t about impulsivity or vanity; it’s often a deeply personal reckoning between who we’ve been and who we still hope […]
LIVING WELL WITH LAUREN was your brain wired to fear rest? if you’ve ever wondered: “Why can’t I just relax like everyone else?” LIVING WELL WITH LAUREN DEC 02, 2025 Have you ever caught yourself hustling, performing, or trying to prove yourself… even when you know you’re exhausted? Same. Same. Today I read […]
