If the idea of sitting across from a therapist in a quiet office makes you want to reschedule approximately forever, you’re not alone. For a lot of people, the traditional therapy setup creates more anxiety than it relieves. The eye contact. The tissues on the table. The sense that you’re supposed to say something profound […]
I often hear parents tell me their kids are doing fine with their divorce. However, when I ask the child how they are doing, they often say they are stuck in the middle of war. I also have many parents who are thinking about divorce ask me, “how will this affect my child?” This is […]
As a man, does asking for help feel foreign or ‘wrong’ somehow? It may be that many traditionally male tenets may be useful or adaptative in certain environments. However, at least some of them might come at a significant cost in other areas. A relatively recent study shows that at least for some men, believing […]
Life can feel like an endless to-do list. Between errands, chasing kids around, demanding work schedules, and maintaining a household, it’s easy to let your relationship take a backseat. Date nights might occasionally break up the routine, but lasting relationships require something deeper—a long-term glue that holds you together beyond just the next evening […]
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If you have ever sat in a church pew feeling like your world was falling apart, only to have a well-meaning friend tell you to “just pray about it,” you know the unique sting of spiritual bypassing. You may have walked away feeling not only the original weight of your anxiety or grief but […]
I have had many sessions with clients (mainly men) on a concept for which they struggle to overcome. That is, trying (and usually failing) to be Superman in our everyday lives. I believe at some point in our lives, we want to be a hero or at least experience something which identifies us as heroic. […]
When you love someone struggling with addiction (for example, drugs, alcohol, food, porn, gambling), your world often shrinks until it revolves entirely around their choices, their safety, and their moods. You may find yourself trapped in a cycle of “saving” and “rescuing” them, only to watch the same patterns repeat. The hard truth that many […]
Feeling Stressed? Here are 7 Neuro-Science Backed Ways to Become More Resilien Understanding the effects of our past can help us deal with stress both now and into the future. Gleaning from the study of brain formation and function, neuroscience has discovered what is known as a pattern of stress which can help us become […]
There is something seductive about being told you are right. And increasingly, that is exactly what millions of people are getting when they turn to AI chatbots for emotional support, relationship advice, and personal guidance. A landmark study published this week in the journal Science by Stanford University researchers has confirmed what many clinicians have […]
