When a narcissistic or emotionally abusive relationship ends, many people expect to feel relief. Often, what comes first is confusion, exhaustion and a quiet sense of being “less than” you used to be. After months or years of criticism, gaslighting and shifting goalposts, it is common to doubt your judgement, your attractiveness, your intelligence and […]
“I know they’re bad for me, so why can’t I let go?” It is one of the most painful questions people bring to counselling. You may be able to list every hurtful thing that happened, and still feel a pull towards the person who hurt you that seems stronger than reason. Friends may not understand. […]
Many of the people I work with arrive saying the same thing: “Nothing that bad happened. He never hit me. Maybe I’m overreacting.” Emotional abuse rarely announces itself. It tends to build slowly, through small moments that are easy to explain away, until one day you realise you no longer recognise yourself. If you have […]
Life can sometimes feel overwhelming. Whether you’re navigating the demands of parenting, recovering from a difficult life experience, managing anxiety, or simply carrying the weight of everyday responsibilities, there are moments when your nervous system can become overloaded. Your heart races, your thoughts speed up, emotions feel bigger than usual, and it can seem impossible […]
The Triple Network Model: Understanding Intrusive Thoughts and How EMDR Can Help Intrusive thoughts can feel sudden, repetitive, and difficult to control. They may arrive as unwanted images, worries, memories, or impulses that feel distressing even when a person knows they are not choosing them. For many clients, understanding what is happening in the brain […]
When everyone leans on you, but no one sees how much you’re carrying There are some struggles people talk about openly, and others they carry so quietly that even the people closest to them don’t fully see it. One of the most common and most overlooked reasons people come to therapy is because they are […]
Infidelity, often seen as a breach of trust and a betrayal within a relationship, is a complex issue with roots that run deep within the dynamics of a partnership. While it’s easy to point fingers at one party, it’s essential to recognize that infidelity is frequently a result of actions and interactions involving both individuals […]
Beyond generic attachment labels: how mapping your default reactions & relational dynamics under stress opens the door to real connection. Have you ever taken an online attachment quiz, read the result “Fearful-Avoidant” (or Disorganised Attachment), and felt both understood and completely stuck? Whether you’re in a relationship right now or reflecting on patterns from past […]
En consulta veo con frecuencia parejas que hablan constantemente y sienten que hace años no se comunican. Coordinan horarios, se cuentan el día, resuelven quién busca a los chicos o qué se cocina esta noche. Palabras van y vienen, sin pausa. Y aun así, cuando les pregunto de qué hablaron por última vez que realmente […]
Se puede nombrar el cansancio. La rutina. El estrés, los hijos, el trabajo, la falta de tiempo. Son explicaciones cómodas, y en parte son ciertas. Pero debajo de esas explicaciones suele haber algo más difícil de decir en voz alta: hace tiempo que el deseo no aparece como antes, y no queda del todo claro […]
