Co-regulation is the capacity for two nervous systems to come into a sense of well-being, together. When we are young, our caregivers dance with us through this medium, following the fluctuations of our emotional and physiological changes, lending their nervous systems to help us regulate, and shaping our ability to dance with ourselves in this […]
Breath is such a powerful tool for becoming who we are. It carries and influences our consciousness. The air inside us, like the breeze, can make leaves dance and glisten, move streams and rivers. It can calm a storm, or start one up. We can slow and elongate our breathing to calm waters. We can […]
Anyone who has a teenager knows that the teenager thinks that they know everything and they need no one’s help. Many parents have had major arguments with their teenagers because they tried to offer the teenager advice about how to handle a situation. I have had many teenagers sit in my office too, saying they […]
On Friday, September 18, 2020, we lost an American legend and a person who taught all of us some very important lessons. The person we lost was Supreme Court Justice Ruth Bader Ginsberg at the age of 87. While the politicians are arguing about who and how her place on the Supreme Court will be […]
If you’re as old as I am, you may remember the Saturday Night Live spoof called Daily Affirmations with Stuart Smalley, which essentially pokes fun at the use of positive affirmations. And at some time in your life when you were down in a slump, it is highly likely someone perhaps suggested for you to […]
The teen years are an important developmental time. Important things that happen during this time include: 1. Forming important relationships Teens spend more and more time with peers. Peers influence the formation of their identity and allow to them to try out different groups to see where they fit in. Teens may face stress in […]
Low Self-Esteem: That Must Be Because I’m Worthless, Right Ever feel worthless? Most people do. But if you feel like that all or most of the time something’s wrong. Self-esteem is not a “thing,” it’s how you feel about yourself. It’s a feeling, a state of mind. Self-esteem is a judgment you make about yourself, […]
As we all know, puberty is a very stressful time. It’s a time of change in multiple facets of adolescent lives: physiological, physical, psychological and social as well. It takes some time to get used to all the turmoil. Some of the most shocking physical changes are the growth spurts, new growth of hair and […]
Be Curious. Get to know your friend, it takes time to learn about another person. Don’t be so quick to assume or jump to conclusions. Avoid Attacking or Judging others. Listen and Validate. Friends want to be heard and understood by you. Listen to what the other person is saying. Use those empathy skills to […]
As a psychotherapist, I’m in the business of hearing how people, especially women, talk about their bodies using hateful and disparaging terms. They aren’t alone. I’ve done the same myself, and so I know how hard it can be to make peace with our imperfect bodies (are they ever anything else?) let alone feel loving […]
