When I suggest that a client may be sensitive, or even highly sensitive, they wince when their sensitivity is mentioned. As if I called them an asshole or some other unsavory name. Shame washes over them, as if I have suddenly discovered the secret they’ve been hiding from the world. When did it become taboo […]
I have talked about how I think self-care is a myth. How we have been conditioned (especially as helpers and empaths) to give all of our good away and then use self-care to fill ourselves back up. I have developed my thesis: self-care is a way of life, not the pampering activities or self-soothing techniques […]
In recent times, the concept of attending to one’s inner child to heal oneself has been gaining popularity in psychotherapy. Therapeutic approaches such as the Internal Family System (IFS) and Parts Work, as well as various books and worksheets, have emphasized the importance of understanding one’s fragmented self and piecing it together like […]
Being Nice Psychological Underpinnings: External Motivation: Being “nice” is often driven by the desire for social approval, acceptance, or avoidance of conflict. It may stem from a need to be liked or to avoid rejection or disapproval. Niceness can be an outward behavior aimed at managing others’ perceptions of oneself. People-Pleasing: “Niceness” is often linked […]
By: Rachel Cooper, MS, LPC-Associate Supervised by Amber Quaranta Leech, PHD, LPC-S Amority Health – Blog – Shifting Perceptions The holidays can feel overwhelming, even for those used to managing everything with precision. If you’re a high-achieving adult, it’s easy to get caught in the cycle of “I have to do it all” […]
There’s a particular kind of heaviness that comes when you wake up one day and realize you’re drifting. You’re doing the motions — work, conversations, scrolling, errands — but inside, everything feels blurry. People assume “lost” means irresponsible or dramatic. But most of the time, feeling directionless is something quieter: the slow fading of an […]
Let me tell you what self-care is not. Self-care is not… a get-out-of-jail-free card a life raft saving you from burnout a remedy for being depleted a stop-gap for overworking a cure for what ails you an excuse to stay when all the signs are pointing for you to go a fix to offload stress […]
I believe that self-care is a myth. That we have been sold a bill of goods. Trust me, I didn’t always think this. Instead, for years I peddled handouts of self-care suggestions to my patients. The kind of lists with 100 items listed as “Self-Care Activities.” Lists like: Soak in a bath Light a scented […]
There’s a peculiar paradox nestled in the heart of human behaviour: we are equipped with brains powerful enough to analyse, rationalize, and dream past the stratosphere—yet we so often find ourselves tripping over our own shoelaces. You’ve probably said it: “Why do I keep doing this? I know better!” Those cycles of procrastination before a […]
Most people think confidence means never doubting yourself.But that’s not confidence.That’s performance. We’ve been taught to see confidence as a show — the strong handshake, the straight posture, the words that never hesitate. But real confidence has less to do with how you appear… and everything to do with how you return to yourself when […]
