You hold it together all day-at work, at home, managing a thousand moving parts. But when one small thing goes wrong, you lose it or shut down. That’s your window of tolerance in action-the range where your nervous system can handle stress before flipping into fight, flight, or freeze. When you’re outside that window, logic […]
Who stole my child and replaced them with an alien? Anxious, rebellious, irritable, moody, distant…Some of this behavior from your child during adolescence (roughly ages 12 – 25) is COMPLETELY normal. So how do you know the difference between normal adolescent development and when your middle- or high-school age child needs help? Most teens display […]
I believe that self-care is a myth. That we have been sold a bill of goods. Trust me, I didn’t always think this. Instead, for years I peddled handouts of self-care suggestions to my patients. The kind of lists with 100 items listed as “Self-Care Activities.” Lists like: Soak in a bathLight a scented candlePlay […]
Have you ever experienced what Irvin Yalom calls “an awakening experience” – when you realize you are not really living? Have you ever woken from a dream state to see that you are just going through the motions? That your life is on autopilot? That you checked out somewhere along the way? Life during Lockdown […]
What is EMDR? Eye movement desensitization and reprocessing (EMDR) is a form of psychotherapy typically applied to those experiencing PTSD and other stress-related conditions. A traumatic event can potentially give rise to a series of severe mental disorders; several solid pieces of evidence support this theory. EMDR therapy is, therefore, not only useful for PTSD […]
When Marriage Ends: How to Begin Healing After Divorce Divorce can feel like watching your world crack open. One day you’re part of a story you thought would last forever—and the next, you’re staring at blank pages. But endings can also be beginnings. This isn’t about fixing what broke—it’s about finding who you are now. […]
Halloween is coming up quickly and many children are anxiously counting the hours until Halloween. For children this is a great holiday. They get to wear a costume they like and they get free candy. What more could a child ask for? Many children plan all year about the costume they are going to […]
I know that reaching out for therapy can take courage. If you’re reading this, chances are you’ve been carrying a lot — trying to hold it together, showing up for others, while wondering when it might be your turn to feel supported. You don’t have to do it alone. I work with adults and young […]
Lately I have been anxious. Not my usual low hum of worry, of thinking every detail through, but the “out-of-the-normal” anxiety. Waves of panic descend over me, crash on me out of nowhere. I will be sitting on the couch, and suddenly I am anxious, panicked. Worrisome thoughts intrude on my brain. “Will I have […]
As a Licensed Professional Counselor, I fully support the American Counseling Association’s reaffirmed stance against conversion therapy. The ACA’s recent statement, issued alongside its participation in Chiles v. Salazar before the U.S. Supreme Court, makes something very clear: efforts to change a person’s sexual orientation or gender identity are not therapy. They are harm disguised as help. […]
