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Most couples don’t begin marriage expecting their childhood to influence their disagreements. Yet many partners eventually notice that arguments about money, intimacy, communication, or parenting can feel bigger than the issue itself—almost like the relationship is on the line. That’s often because marriage doesn’t just join two people. It brings together two nervous systems, two […]

I’ve been working with couples who have weathered deep, painful conflicts and are trying to rebuild connection, trust, and intimacy. The wounds have been treated, but they’re still tender. They want to reconnect but find themselves hesitant—after so much tension and pain, it’s hard to open up again, to be vulnerable. One of the most […]

What Do Couples Argue About? www.bastiontherapy.com You may have wondered what other couples argue about. And if you reflect on your own arguments, you may have wondered how your arguments relate to how other couples argue and whether couples therapy might be helpful. First, let’s recognize that disagreements among couples is normal, but that conflict […]

In psychotherapy and couples therapy at Bastion Therapy, we can explore tools that can help with couples conflict and conflict in general. www.bastiontherapy.com Have you ever wondered if the way you and your partner communicate during conflict might not be ideal? One potential tool is changing your opening statement in a conflict discussion. In a […]

A lot of people come into therapy thinking something in them is wrong. It’s a place I’ve sat in myself. It’s not always spoken so directly…   Often, it sounds more like: “I don’t know why I react like this.” “I understand it… but I still can’t change it.” “I don’t understand why I keep […]

Before working with couples, I always start with one individual session with each partner. These sessions are 50-minutes long, and they are much like a regular initial individual psychotherapy session. While confidential, I explain that there are no secrets held within the individual sessions away from their partner. That means that anything discussed in the […]

TL;DR: Therapy intensives offer extended, focused time to explore your inner world without the time pressure of traditional weekly sessions. Instead of stopping just as deeper emotions begin to surface, intensives allow the therapeutic process to unfold more fully. This format can be especially effective for trauma-focused approaches like EMDR therapy and Internal Family Systems. […]

Trauma therapy has evolved significantly over the past few decades, and today there are several effective approaches designed to help people process painful memories and move forward with their lives. Two therapies that are often discussed together are Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) and Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART). Both approaches use eye movements and […]

Last week in my office, a husband sat across from me, clearly frustrated and agitated. His words came out fast and loud. “What can I say to get her to listen?” he asked, exasperated. But here was the problem: his wife, sitting just a few feet away, was trying to listen. In fact, she’d been […]